Wishes ahead of time
Saying what you want before the family has to choose
What this is
A note can name the place, the clothes, who should be near, and which prayer or music matters. The family keeps that note
This is not a legal will. It only tells the people close to you what you hoped for
The note can name the place, the clothes, and who should be called first. The family keeps that page themselves
The next step
The exact terms are agreed with the family